Avoiding Burnout in Relationships

Types of Relationships

Relationships in this article are defined as any interaction between two people. This may mean family, friends, romantic, or even coworker relationships. The level of interconnectedness in a relationship varies, but these same principles will apply in most cases.

What is Burnout?

Burnout is when one person in a relationship takes more than they put back in. This is often the case when a person in a relationship has a mental illness.

A person with Mental Illness will have less control of their emotional well-being than a typical person. Care needs to be put into the relationships to keep them from being unbalanced.  An unbalanced relationship will take an unfair emotional toll on one person.

The end result of the constant emotional drain in a relationship is burnout. Burnout will destroy a relationship.

Why Work to Avoid Burnout?

It can be very hard for a person with mental illness to find and maintain relationships with other people. When that person loses a relationship they have built it can really be hurtful and intensify feelings of isolation. Isolation is a common negative byproduct of living with mental illness.

By working to avoid burnout in your relationships you can maintain the connections with others needed to avoid feeling completely isolated. By maintaining relationships A person with mental illness can begin to build a support network of healthy friendships.

How is Burnout Avoided?

When a person in a relationship has a mental illness it is important to work to maintain balance for both people. No one person should take more from a relationship than they give. If there is an imbalance within a relationship a person can try to make changes to fix it.

The first step is going to be communication. Clearly, state the problem and the changes that need to take place.

The second step is going to be to listen to the other person’s response with an open mind.

The third step is work together to make the changes you need to maintain the relationship.

Taking Equal Responsibility

Having a mental illness should be treated like a disease.  They should not be blamed or shamed for its symptoms. This is not an excuse to remove personal responsibility in a relationship.

When trying to reestablish a healthy balance in a relationship both parties should take equal responsibility.  Both parties should set and respect boundaries.  Both parties should put the work in that it takes to make the relationship whole again.

When is it Too Late?

Sometimes, time and distance from the relationship are needed to regroup and rebuild it with a happy balance. Sometimes after communicating and working on a relationship and giving it time and distance, nothing helps.

If you find yourself in an unhappy relationship that can not find balance, it is best to end it. Holding on to a relationship out of stubbornness or out of a sense of duty does not benefit anyone.

You can not take on the responsibility of another person’s emotional well-being at the expense of your own.

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I hope you found this article helpful. I would love to hear personal accounts of how you work to maintain healthy relationships in your life. This is quite honestly one of my biggest struggles.

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Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10